Stop it! Learning to Deal with Verbal Abuse
on Dec 12, 2008Sarah is watching TV with her husband Erik. A commercial for a fast food company comes on, and she picks up the remote and mutes it. “Hey!” Erik yells. “Why the hell did you do that! I was watching it!” “Oh, sorry,” Sarah says, turning t...

THE JOURNEY FROM LOSS TO HEALING
on Oct 30, 2008There is one hard and fast rule when it comes to coping with the death of someone you love: there are no rules. Every death is different, and every relationship is different, so the way each of us experiences loss and grief will be different. Grief i...

MAKE YOUR WORRYING WORK FOR YOU
on Oct 17, 2008 in gratitude solutions worry friend tell Worrying may have a bad rep, but worrying, if it's done right, can actually be helpful. Effective worrying can anticipate and avoid problems, devise artful solutions, and expand creative possibilities. It leads to constructive action. On the other ha

COPING WITH CHANGE
on Oct 14, 2008 in strategies serenity uncertainty change challenges As soon as something nudges us out of our regular routine, or challenges our understanding of how the world works and where we it into it, we’re likely to experience a deluge of feelings, including fear, anxiety, overwhelm, excitement, distraction...

The Holidays: Here They Come, Ready or Not
on Oct 10, 2008 in stress emotionally family change holidays holiday blues When the weather changes and the leaves begin to wither, it starts. By Halloween, it’s gathering momentum and by Thanksgiving, it has us in a full-body press. “It” is The Holidays, and whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa or simpl...

Saving Ourselves from Self-Sabotage
on Oct 10, 2008 in Self-sabotaging self-destruction patterns control compulsive stuck responsibility When he was a boy, Stan vowed he’d never be a father like his own father whom he described as aloof, critical, and emotionally unavailable. Yet, 30 years later, he catches himself treating his son harshly and constantly judging him for not measurin...